I read and article in one of my nursing magazines about happiness. It had some good points that are worth summarizing here. I also searched some internet sites and discovered that there are many more articles on depression than on happiness.
Happiness is a positive emotion that can be looked upon as an individual trait. Sustained happiness can be associated with characteristics that parallel success, including sociability, optimism, energy, originality and altruism. A positive psychologist, Martin Seligman calls it “manifests as deep satisfaction with how you live your life.”
Some people are born happy. Scientifically, they seem to better use their serotonin transporter gene and are generally more satisfied with life. The others of us tend to be in control of our own happiness. We make choices that are more satisfying and we can rationalize the happiness. Several factors can contribute to our happiness.
Age. We tend to get happier as we grow older. A Gallup telephone poll found that we are happiest between the ages of 50 – 70. Interesting.
Religion. I think we all see that being together for worship regularly is very satisfying. The other activities we attend stem from worship where the friendship with God branches in reaching out to each other. A Pew study found that people who attended services weekly or more were happier than those who attend less often. There is no scientific data as to why but there is a theory that church life reduces stress and provides meaning to life.
Money. Ask a lottery winner if the money brought them happiness and most will say it wasn’t the money. A Gallup World Poll found that a person’s satisfaction with their standard of living was associated with a more positive evaluation of life. Using one’s skill and autonomy brought more overall satisfaction. Having the money did not bring daily happiness.
Marriage. Married people tend to be happier although there is not a clear reason why. It’s very complicated except to say that we are social creatures and we require regular psychological nourishment. Being in a sustained relationship attends to those requirements.
The article went on to talk about some strategies to get happy. Connecting socially, keeping a positive attitude, being grateful and tending to your body are all good virtues.
Learning to reduce negative thoughts can contribute to happiness. Dealing with adversity, feeling out the situation, looking at consequences can be predictors of unhappiness. Recognizing your negative thoughts or checking on your energy levels can work in your favor. Perhaps there’s a situation that requires an intervention. Perhaps it is you who needs to forgive or make a change. Dealing with emotions, especially negative ones can prevent long periods of uncertainty that can lead to unhappiness. Studies have shown that those who forgive become less angry and more compassionate. It allows you to move on. It is a feeling of peace that emerges as you take your hurt less personally and take responsibility for how you feel. You can become the hero instead of the victim in the story you tell.
Finally, one way to be kind to your mind is through meditation or some form of mindfulness. Research at the University of Wisconsin found that meditation significantly increased positive emotion. It resulted in lower cortisol, cholesterol and blood pressure. The focused relaxation had some very positive effects. Overall, it must be said that happiness is a journey, not a destination.
Take care everyone. Perhaps we can stay focused and in control with the upcoming holidays so that we can enjoy them.
Ann